Oh, naptime

March 30, 2011

me: 0
husband: 0
nap: 0
G: 1

Not that I’m keeping score.

It’s almost 2pm and my son still hasn’t napped. Oh, unless you count about 15 minutes of napping this morning, broken up into two or three increments.


Sleep has always been an issue for my son, but these last few weeks it has been out of control. And not every nap or even every day. But you just never know. And it makes planning ANYTHING really frickin’ difficult.

Teething certainly doesn’t help anything. For some reason these top teeth are about 40 times worse than the bottom teeth and the process has been very drawn out. One cut through last week, but the other is taking its sweet time.

Alright, let’s give this another go.

Oh, it is ON.


Trouble sleeping?

January 26, 2011

Has anyone had their baby suddenly have trouble sleeping?

We’ve had sleep issues when we’ve noticed certain things, like a growth spurt or teething or illness. But G seems totally fine right now… except, for the past two days, he doesn’t want to sleep!

Yesterday, he fought his morning nap for an hour. He fought his afternoon nap for three hours. He went to bed just fine, but then woke up in the middle of the night and was WIDE AWAKE. Like, the way he was when he was a newborn and had his days and nights mixed up. He usually wakes up, nurses, and goes right back to sleep. But last night, he was bright eyed and bushy tailed. Talking, squealing, rolling over. He was up for over an hour, at least. And then he woke up again EARLY this morning, well before the sun made its way over the farthest edge of Lake Superior. There was no getting him back to sleep.

And now, he’s been fighting his morning nap again. It’s been about an hour and a half now. My patience is wearing thin, especially when he gets whiny.

I’m tired. I’m still trying to catch up from being sick for over a week (with no help whatsoever). Hell, I’m tired because I haven’t gotten a full night of sleep since the beginning of my pregnancy in November of 2009. Is it too much to ask for a nap?

I’m sorry. Two whiny posts in a row. But I’m not sure if this is a normal thing babies go through? Any advice? This, too, shall pass?

I’m watching an episode of Clean House right now. I find it motivating when I’m not in the mood to clean, but today it really annoyed me. The crew is going through one family’s home and they go into the toddler’s room and find out that, well, he doesn’t sleep in there. When asked why, the mother whispers to the host, “I’m still breastfeeding.” *insert overreaction here*

They’re all “stunned” (actual word used) because the couple is still co-sleeping with their two year old and because the mother is still breastfeeding him. The host immediately jumped to the “omg what about sex” (well, not in those exact words, but you know how that argument goes any time co-sleeping comes up). Now, to be fair, they ask the husband about it and he does say he wants the son to start sleeping in his own room (though, is he just put on the spot and made to feel like they’re doing something weird because of how these people are treating them?).

I wish they’d stick to dealing with clutter and leave alternative parenting styles out of it. You might not agree with co-sleeping or extended breastfeeding but there is no need to act like there is something seriously wrong with this family and start shrieking when you find out the woman is still nursing her two year old. Give me a break! Way to knock extended breastfeeding on television… like it doesn’t get enough of the taboo talk as it is. Sad. If the husband thinks it’s time to move the son out of the room then fine, but that’s an issue they should discuss without being made into weirdos on tv. The show isn’t even halfway over, so I’m curious how the topic will be handled as it goes on (it’s only been dealt with in one scene so far).

I don’t know how long I’ll breastfeed or co-sleep (G is still shy of six months old) but I’ll be damned if our family decisions would be based on the shame and (over)reaction of house clutter experts.


December 9, 2010

G just went down for a nap a few minutes ago. He started giggling in his sleep. I wonder what’s so funny? He still has a smile on his face.

Much Needed

November 18, 2010

My husband, J, worked from home today. He’s been working crazy hours ever since G was born, and today is the first time he’s had an at-home office day in about a month or so. He doesn’t get to see much of what I deal with on a daily basis, or on a typical weekday, as far as how much work a baby this age can be.

Anyhow, G loves to fight sleep. This means dealing with an Overly Tired Baby sometimes. Sometimes that baby is hungry but fusses and strains too much to eat, so then I get an Overly Hungry Overly Tired Baby. I can’t complain too much; he’s still one of the most laid-back babies I’ve ever encountered.

So this afternoon was one of those times where I was dealing with an Overly Hungry Overly Tired Baby. He had a minor meltdown and was crying and I struggled to console him and help him relax enough to nurse and sleep. One of my strengths as a mother is patience; I can keep my cool with G even when we’re both stressed and tired (I wish I could say I have the same patience with my husband!).

J looked at me while I worked my mommy “magic” with G, and teared up. He smiled and told me, “I’m glad you’re his mother.”


In other news, a certain little boy turned four months old yesterday… on the one year anniversary of my positive home pregnancy test. But that’s a post for another day.

Getting way too big!

G also started giggling a few days ago. It is the best sound I’ve ever heard in my life. He is still selective with it, and guards those giggles tightly for only the BEST tickles. But I would stand on my head and sing a Justin Bieber song in a kilt and goggles if it would make him laugh.

Sleeping babies, and not.

November 13, 2010

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes.

Thank you!

The emphasis on getting babies to be on an adult schedule–practically from birth–baffles me.

One of the first questions I get asked by so many people is how my son is sleeping. “Is he sleeping through the night?” This began almost immediately after he was born. I get concerned looks and frowns and “it’ll get better”s when I say that G still wakes up to nurse a few times. People are much less impressed when I say, “G did a six hour stretch of sleep last night!” than I am.

G doesn’t wake up because he’s bad or there’s something wrong with him. He wakes up because he needs to. Because he’s a hungry, growing baby. And now he easily goes back to sleep from the comfort he gets from his mother’s breast, the warm touch of my hand over his belly, or of my fingers across his brow.

So yes, I blow off those people who think I’m doing something wrong, or who think my son is sleeping poorly. He has made HUGE strides in his sleep patterns and I am damn proud of the way he sleeps. And I am proud of myself, too… I have listened to my own instincts as his mother to do what is best. I am helping him learn how to sleep. And if that involves co-sleeping and nursing him to sleep (more than once) then so be it.

I *dare* you to look at this face and tell me I’m not doing it the “right” way.

Big steps today!

October 18, 2010

Last night, Little Guy did a SIX HOUR stretch of sleep! The longest ever.

He usually only does a four hour stretch, but started doing an occasional five hour stretch about a week and a half ago. He followed last night’s long sleep by two more shorter stints, nursing in between, for a grand total of 10 hours. He went right back to sleep after nursing each time, too.

We struggled so much with sleep up to this point, so I’m very proud of him.

Also… he flipped over from his belly to his back for the first time! It was so exciting. He had this look of shock on his face, like, “Did I really just do that?!” and then he gave me a huge smile. Such a big boy!

3 months & co-sleeping

October 17, 2010

Little Guy is 3 months old today. I can’t believe it. I get teary whenever I write his monthly journal entries (I have a Moleskine journal that I’m keeping for him, with monthly “letters”) and basically whenever I think about how big he’s getting, and how fast.

He’s amazing. I’m so lucky. I will leave it at that and keep those tears to myself. Being a mother is overwhelming in so many ways.

In other news, tomorrow we are side-carring his crib next to our bed so we can continue co-sleeping with him. He has outgrown his bassinet (Pack ‘n Play) but now is definitely not the time to put him in his room, alone. I like having him in bed with us but not full-time (both my men seem to be bed hogs! haha). I wish we had done this from the beginning (instead of the Pack ‘n Play), it would have been so much easier to reach for him for those nightly feedings! Live and learn, I suppose. That’s what the first child is for, right?

Anyhow, my husband and I discussed it all today and he is definitely on board now. He actually took ZERO convincing and said he likes having him right with us, which makes me so happy. Tomorrow we’re taking the front rail off of the crib and moving it on in. I’m excited! Is that dorky?

I’m also excited that we’ll have the Pack ‘n Play/changing station downstairs. I need a safe place I can set him down and a place to stick some diapering supplies on the main floor (other than the coffee table).

Co-sleeping experiences?

September 30, 2010

Wanna share your co-sleeping/bed-sharing experiences with me? Spam me with stories, tips, articles, research, etc.

Got my merit badge…

September 22, 2010

…in “Damn this Motherhood Thing is Tough Sometimes.”

But! We survived Little Guy’s first vaccinations.

It was terrible. Awful. Watching him go from his calm, happy self to a red-faced screaming baby with omg real tears… yeah, not cool. I cried. Once he could focus enough to latch on, however, he nursed himself back into his usual mellow state and even gave me smiles. He was sleeping in his car seat before we even left the doctor’s office.

Here he is shortly afterward, safe at home in his jammies and his Sleep Sheep and his snuggly blanket.

(Isn’t his “laundry basket” cool? It’s behind him in this picture, full of clean cloth diapers waiting to be assembled and put away.)

He had some pretty cranky, fussy moments last night but is feeling MUCH better today. We spent this beautiful Fall day at the bakery, food co-op, Target, and then out for Chinese for a family birthday.

Tonight? Back to establishing that whole bedtime/sleeping at night thing. It will be great when he finally realizes that it’s okay to go to sleep before 1am.